Posted in My Belief, My Philosophy on 29 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
My philosophy:
When you ask someone to help or do something for you, can you ask yourself — “Have I done this for others before?”
If no, then why can you selfishly expect people will do this for you when you are never willing to do the same for them?
Posted in My Belief, Psychology & Sciences & Theories on 29 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
That’s why every time when I needed to have a serious “talk” with the kids’ mother in England, I always kept the kids away. I mean this is a common sense, is it not? Why do the kids need to hear loud arguments to leave them emotional traumas for the rest of their life? Arguing in front of children is very damaging their childhood, and then towards their adulthood!!!
And also, if you have very young children with your husband who is cheating on you, DO NOT bring your children to treat your husband!!! The problem and fight are between the adults, NOT the children!!! If you think they are too young to understand, then you are absolutely WRONG!!! They might not be able to understand what you two are fighting, but they have already developed their feelings on what make them scared!!! If you adults have issues, DO NOT GET YOUR CHILDREN INVOLVED!!!
PUBLISHED: 22:11 GMT, 28 November 2012 | UPDATED: 00:38 GMT, 29 November 2012
Children who often see their parents having rows are at risk of depression, experts have warned.
Teenagers who witnessed lots of arguments in early childhood were more likely to suffer from the illness than others, said a Cambridge University team.
‘Violent arguments in front of the children contribute to the likelihood of depression,’ said Professor Barbara Sahakian, of the university’s psychiatry department and co-author of the report.
Research has found those who witnessed frequent arguments during childhood and possessed a gene making them more sensitive to emotions, were significantly likelier to become depressed
‘If you are staying together for the sake of the family, then fighting and arguing in front of the kids is not good. It would be better for them not to have that kind of environment.’
The team identified a gene that made some children more sensitive to emotions and also more likely to develop depression.
Researchers came up with a simple test, that can be carried out at school, to identify those at risk of depression, allowing youngsters to get help before they suffer with the disease.
Researchers found that teenagers who struggled to process emotional information were more likely to develop mental health problems.
In the study of 238 children, aged between 15 and 18, those who did worst at the test were up to four times more likely to develop depression within a year.
Previous research has found one in 10 British children aged between five and 16 years old have had mental health problems
Those who did badly had a gene – present in one in five people – that made them less emotionally resilient.
They also lived in households where they had been exposed before the age of six to intermittent arguments for longer than six months. One in three children live like this, said the team.
Professor Ian Goodyer, principal investigator on the study, said: ‘Whether we succumb to anxiety and depression depends in part on our tendencies to think well or poorly of ourselves at troubled times.
How it comes about that some people see the glass half full and think positively, whereas others see the glass half empty and think negatively about themselves at times of stress is not known.
The evidence is that our genes and early childhood experiences contribute.’
Previous research has found that one in ten British children aged between five and 16 years old have had mental health problems.
In any given year, one in four people will suffer a mental health disorder, with most having a form of depression and anxiety.
Posted in My Belief, My Philosophy, Psychology & Sciences & Theories on 28 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Posted in English Language Teaching (ELT) and Learning on 27 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
By SEAN O’HARE
PUBLISHED: 10:10 GMT, 27 November 2012 | UPDATED: 15:37 GMT, 27 November 2012
A distinguished former editor of the Oxford English Dictionary attempted to rewrite the dictionary by deleting thousands of words with foreign roots and blaming it on his predecessors, a new book claims.
Deleted words include ‘balisaur’, a badger-like animal from India, ‘Danchi’, a Bengali plant and ‘boviander’, the name in British Guyana for a person of mixed race living on the river banks.
The OED is now re-examining words removed by Robert Burchfield who edited the world respected dictionary during the 70s and 80s and who died in 2004 aged 81.
Mr Burchfield has long been considered the editor who opened up the English dictionary to the wider world, until now.
Sarah Ogilvie, also a former OED editor, in her new book Words of the World reveals how Burchfield started a rumour that his earlier editors of the OED were inward-looking anglocentrics, when in fact the opposite was true and it was Burchfield himself who was deleting foreign words.
After investigating Burchfield’s rumours she discovered they were unfounded and that he was actually responsible for the deletion of words such as ‘shape’, meaning a Tibetan councillor and ‘wake-up’ a golden-winged woodpecker.
She said: ‘I was the editor of the OED responsible for words from outside Europe and while editing these words I noticed a pattern that went against the general consensus: there were thousands of foreign words and words from varieties of English around the world in the dictionary and they had been put there by editor James Murray and his fellow editors.
‘The irony of the whole story is that although in the beginning the dictionary editors were criticised for putting too many ‘outlandish’ words in the dictionary that were ‘decaying’ our language, one hundred years later they were criticised for the opposite: for too many British words in the dictionary and not enough foreign words!
‘But it turns out that this was a myth perpetuated by a 20th-century Chief Editor of the OED.’
As part of her investigation she compared Mr Burchfield’s four OED dictionaries published between 1972 and 1986 to a 1933 edition and found that he had erased 17 per cent of the ‘loanwords’ and world English words that had been included by OED editor Charles Onions, who included 45 per cent more foreign words than Burchfield.
Part of the scandal lies in the fact that usually when a word enters the OED it never leaves.
Early editors of the OED were often heavily criticised or straying too far from the Queen’s English and including foreign words from far flung lands, such as typhoon, bamboo and abattoir.
One reviewer of a 19th century dictionary attacked the inclusion of words from New Zealand and Mexico, writing: ‘There is no surer or more fatal sign of the decay of a language than in the interpolation of barbarous terms and foreign words.’
A spokesperson for the OED’s publisher Oxford University Press said one of the dictionary’s current policies was ‘to reevaluate any terms which were left out of the supplement by Burchfield’ and that it continued to add new words from every English-speaking country.
The spokesperson added that Burchfield ‘was insistent that the dictionary should expand its coverage of international words in English and, although he omitted minor terms from the supplement which he was revising and extending, he added many thousands of more fully researched international entries’.
Posted in Films, Music, Pop Songs on 27 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
AAAAWWWWWWWWWW . . . I MISS THE UK!!!!!!!!!!!!! TAKE ME BACK TO THE UK!!!!!!!!!!! MY MIND HAS MARRIED TO THE UK!!!!!!!!!!! X(((
Posted in It's just nothing on 27 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
1 I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn’t work that way. So I stole a bike and asked for forgiveness.
2 Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
3 I want to die peacefully in my sleep, like my grandfather.. Not screaming and yelling like the passengers in his car.
4 The last thing I want to do is hurt you. But it’s still on the list.
5 Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. “Yes” is the answer.
6 Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake a whole relationship.
7 We live in a society where pizza gets to your house before the police.
8 Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand.
9 We never really grow up, we only learn how to act in public.
10 Men have two emotions: Hungry and Horny. If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich.
11 Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
12 War does not determine who is right – only who is left.
13 If I agreed with you we’d both be wrong.
14 The early bird might get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.
15 Politicians and diapers have one thing in common. They should both be changed regularly, and for the same reason.
16 Children: You spend the first 2 years of their life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next 16 years telling them to sit down and shut-up.
17 If sex is a pain in the ass, then you’re doing it wrong…
18 Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit; Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.
19 Evening news is where they begin with ‘Good evening’, and then proceed to tell you why it isn’t.
20 A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my desk, I have a work station..
21 My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-bitch.
22 I didn’t fight my way to the top of the food chain to be a vegetarian
23 If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of payments.
24 I thought I wanted a career, turns out I just wanted paychecks.
25 If God is watching us, the least we can do is be entertaining.
26 Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.
27 If 4 out of 5 people SUFFER from diarrhea… does that mean that one enjoys it?
28 Some people are like Slinkies … not really good for anything, but you can’t help smiling when you see one tumble down the stairs.
29 How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?
30 Did you know that dolphins are so smart that within a few weeks of captivity, they can train people to stand on the very edge of the pool and throw them fish?
31 A bank is a place that will lend you money, if you can prove that you don’t need it.
32 Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.
33 Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.
34 To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism. To steal from many is research.
35 A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing.
36 I saw a woman wearing a sweat shirt with “Guess” on it…so I said “Implants?”
37 Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion stars, but check when you say the paint is wet?
38 A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.
39 The voices in my head may not be real, but they have some good ideas!
40 Good girls are bad girls that never get caught.
41 Women will never be equal to men until they can walk down the street with a bald head and a beer gut, and still think they are sexy.
42 Laugh at your problems, everybody else does.
43 The shinbone is a device for finding furniture in a dark room.
44 Whenever I fill out an application, in the part that says “If an emergency, notify:” I put “DOCTOR”. What’s my mother going to do?
45 He who smiles in a crisis has found someone to blame.
46 The main reason Santa is so jolly is because he knows where all the bad girls live.
47 I didn’t say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you.
48 Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.
49 God must love stupid people. He made SO many.
50 Behind every successful man is his woman. Behind the fall of a successful man is usually another woman.
51 The sole purpose of a child’s middle name, is so he can tell when he’s really in trouble.
52 Never get into fights with ugly people, they have nothing to lose.
53 Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won’t expect it back.
54 Never hit a man with glasses. Hit him with a baseball bat.
55 My opinions may have changed, but not the fact that I am right.
56 Some people say “If you can’t beat them, join them”. I say “If you can’t beat them, beat them”, because they will be expecting you to join them, so you will have the element of surprise.
57 Some cause happiness wherever they go. Others whenever they go.
58 It’s not the fall that kills you; it’s the sudden stop at the end.
59 Crowded elevators smell different to midgets.
60 Hospitality: making your guests feel like they’re at home, even if you wish they were.
61 You do not need a parachute to skydive. You only need a parachute to skydive twice.
62 Nostalgia isn’t what it used to be.
63 I discovered I scream the same way whether I’m about to be devoured by a great white shark or if a piece of seaweed touches my foot.
64 A bargain is something you don’t need at a price you can’t resist.
65 My psychiatrist told me I was crazy and I said I want a second opinion. He said okay, you’re ugly too.
66 I intend to live forever. So far, so good.
67 Money can’t buy happiness, but it sure makes misery easier to live with.
68 A diplomat is someone who can tell you to go to hell in such a way that you will look forward to the trip.
69 We have enough gun control. What we need is idiot control.
70 You’re never too old to learn something stupid.
71 I should’ve known it wasn’t going to work out between my ex-wife and me. After all, I’m a Libra and she’s a bitch.
72 A little boy asked his father, “Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?” Father replied, “I don’t know son, I’m still paying.”
73 With sufficient thrust, pigs fly just fine.
74 Women may not hit harder, but they hit lower.
75 Knowledge is power, and power corrupts. So study hard and be evil.
76 There’s a fine line between cuddling and holding someone down so they can’t get away.
77 I don’t trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn’t die.
78 Worrying works! 90% of the things I worry about never happen.
79 Why do Americans choose from just two people to run for president and 50 for Miss America?
80 I always take life with a grain of salt, …plus a slice of lemon, …and a shot of tequila.
81 If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you!
82 I used to be indecisive. Now I’m not sure.
83 When in doubt, mumble.
84 I like work. It fascinates me. I sit and look at it for hours.
85 To be sure of hitting the target, shoot first and call whatever you hit the target.
86 Jesus loves you, but everyone else thinks you’re an asshole.
87 A bus is a vehicle that runs twice as fast when you are after it as when you are in it.
88 A TV can insult your intelligence, but nothing rubs it in like a computer.
89 Just remember…if the world didn’t suck, we’d all fall off.
90 I got in a fight one time with a really big guy, and he said, “I’m going to mop the floor with your face.” I said, “You’ll be sorry.” He said, “Oh, yeah? Why?” I said, “Well, you won’t be able to get into the corners very well.”
91 Some people hear voices.. Some see invisible people.. Others have no imagination whatsoever.
92 You are such a good friend that if we were on a sinking ship together and there was only one life jacket… I’d miss you heaps and think of you often.
93 When tempted to fight fire with fire, remember that the Fire Department usually uses water.
94 Hallmark Card: “I’m so miserable without you, it’s almost like you’re still here.”
95 Virginity is like a soapbubble, one prick and it is gone.
96 Change is inevitable, except from a vending machine.
97 If winning isn’t everything why do they keep score?
98 If you keep your feet firmly on the ground, you’ll have trouble putting on your pants.
99 If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child.
100 Whoever coined the phrase “Quiet as a mouse” has never stepped on one.
Cited in http://www.funcage.com/blog/top-100-funniest-one-liners/
Posted in Psychology & Sciences & Theories on 26 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
I’ve deactivated my facebook account quite a while, and I realise I feel free without being mentally controlled by constantly checking the facebook. Social networks may be benefit on finding and gathering old friends together, but at the same time they cause mental health issues! We should spend more time on reading good books than friends’ or even strangers’ privacy.
PUBLISHED: 12:42 GMT, 26 November 2012 | UPDATED: 12:42 GMT, 26 November 2012
Having a large number of Facebook ‘friends’ may boost a person’s ego, but it can also make them more stressed, research suggests.
This is because ‘friending’ people who aren’t that close, such as professional acquaintances, leads to increased worry about posting inappropriate comments and pictures.
A study by Scots academics found that the wider and more diverse a person’s ‘friends’ on the social networking site are, the more stress the site will create.
The research, led by Ben Marder, from Edinburgh University’s business school, found the more friend groups a person has, there is a greater potential to cause offence.
In particular, adding employers or parents resulted in the greatest increase in anxiety.
People presenting a version of themselves that is unacceptable to some of their online ‘friends’, such as posts displaying behaviour such as swearing, recklessness, drinking and smoking, is the largest cause of anxiety.
The added stress becomes more of a problem with older people joining the a site, as their expectations may be very different from those of younger users.
Some 55 per cent of parents follow their children on Facebook.
More than half of employers claimed they have not hired someone based on their Facebook page.
The study also found more people have exes as ‘friends’ than people who are friends with their current partner.
Only 56 per cent of users were friends with their boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse online, compared with 64 per cent of exes.
Although the research found that while most people have an ex as a Facebokk friend, not all people on Facebook have a partner.
Researchers found that on average people are Facebook friends with seven different social circles.
The most common group was friends known offline, 97 per cent added them as friends online, followed by extended family, 81 per cent, siblings, 80 per cent, friends of friends, 69 per cent, and colleagues, 65 per cent.
The report surveyed more than 300 people on Facebook, mostly students, with an average age of 21.
It also discovered that only one third use the listing privacy setting on their Facebook profile, which can be used to control the information seen by different types of friends.
Mr Marder, author of the report and early career fellow in marketing at the Business School, said: ‘Facebook used to be like a great party for all your friends where you can dance, drink and flirt.
‘But now with your Mum, Dad and boss there the party becomes an anxious event full of potential social landmines.
‘If you have partners, parents, family and employers the more stressful it is as they all have different expectations.
‘People will try and manage themselves and regulate how they appear on the site, so they will try and avoid saying things they think, as they are worried how it will appear.
‘I have seen how people will delete photo’s of themself, and even regulate their offline behaviour for their online presence.
‘If people are at parties and they see a camera they then think my boss, or my girlfriend might see this.
‘So they might be smoking or drinking and when a camera comes around they will change their actions so people don’t see it on Facebook.
‘People will try and present a duller version of themself to please every audience as they are so concerned what other will think.
‘You even hear people on nights out saying to each other “don’t put that on Facebook”.’
Posted in My Philosophy, Quotes on 24 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Posted in Books, Quotes on 24 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
“To philosophise is to think for oneself; but no one can truly do so without drawing on the thoughts of others, especially those of the great philosophers of the past.”
“Philosophy is not a science, nor is it wisdom, nor even knowledge: it is a meditation on what knowledge is available. This is why you cannot learn philosophy, according to Kant: you can only learn to philosophize. How? By philosophizing yourself: by thinking about your own thoughts, the thoughts of others, the world, society, about what experience has taught you, and what it hasn’t taught you … Hopefully, in doing so, you will come across a work by some professional philosopher along the way.”
“… because we need to think about the thins we know, the things we experience, the things we desire, questions which knowledge alone cannot answer or dismiss.”
“What can I know? What should I do? What may I hope? What is man? ‘… the first three question relate to the last,’ he remarks. But all of them, I would add, lead to a fifth which, philosophically and humanly, is probably the most important: How should I live? As soon as one tries to answer this question intelligently, one begins to philosophize.”
“‘Philosophy,’ wrote Kant, ‘is man’s striving for wisdom, which is ever incomplete.'”
“Philosophy is about thinking better in order to live better.”
“Ethics begins when we are free: it is freedom itself, when that freedom is considered and controlled.”
to be continue . . .
Posted in Ballet on 9 November, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Youth Arts in Action mentor Maria Sascha Khan interviews “Inspiring Artist” Svetlana Zakharova. Prima Ballerina, Honored Artist of Russia, member of Russia’s State Duma, international guest artist and mother to one adorable little girl.
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photo of Svetlana Zakharova (c) Charles Tandy
Youth Arts in Action mentors Maria Sascha Khan and Nadia Khan are both professional, classical, ballet dancers in Europe. Born and raised in rural Montana, USA they understand the importance of giving back. On the go, between their busy rehearsing schedules and performances, they are able to catch a moment with these Inspiring Artists. Maria Sascha had the opportunity to interview Svetlana directly after their performance together in “La Bayadere”. As you can see from the video, Svetlana has only just changed out of her costume and Maria Sascha has not even had the chance yet. “Svetlana is an absolutely beautiful person inside and out. It was an honor to not only perform with but interview her. As she states the arts (namely ballet) are her life and her love of them runs deep in her soul.”
Some of the Bolshoi Ballet Academy students had questions for the Prima Ballerina as well. Josephine Cheung a graduating student from Hong Kong had her question posed to Svetlana in the interview. Make sure and watch to find out not only the answer to Josephine’s question, but what advice Svetlana has to give!
Just about Serena... 
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